8 Ways to Surf the Waves of Grief

Grief comes in waves, it's always there, like a constant stomach ache. Sometimes the intensity of those waves feel like they are holding you under water, held by the rip current of loss. Grief is a universal experience, yet it is deeply personal and unique to each individual. The journey through loss can be challenging, but understanding that grief is a natural response to significant life changes is crucial. Let’s explore coping strategies to help navigate the difficult terrain of grief and loss, fostering healing and resilience. There’s no “correct” way to grieve but we see time and time again these 8 aspects that make a difference in an individual's ability to adjust to absence of a loved one.

1. Acknowledge and Accept Emotions:

   Grieving is a multifaceted process, and acknowledging the array of emotions is essential. From sadness and anger to confusion and guilt, allowing oneself to feel and express these emotions is a crucial step toward healing.

2. Seek Support:

  Grieving can feel isolating, but reaching out for support is a vital part of the healing process. Share your feelings with friends, family, or a support group, as talking about your experiences can provide comfort and understanding.

3. Create Rituals and Memorials:

   Establishing rituals or creating memorials to honor the person or thing you've lost can be a therapeutic way to express grief. This might include lighting a candle, planting a tree, visiting a grave or meaningful place, music or creating a scrapbook of cherished memories.

4. Take Care of Your Physical Health:

   Grieving can take a toll on both mental and physical well-being. Ensure you are getting enough rest, eating well, and engaging in physical activity. Taking care of your body can contribute to a more resilient mindset.

5. Allow Time for Healing:

   Healing is a gradual process, and there is no predetermined timeline for overcoming grief. Give yourself the grace to navigate your emotions at your own pace, understanding that healing is an ongoing journey rather than a destination.

6. Consider Professional Help:

   If the weight of grief becomes overwhelming, seeking the assistance of a therapist or counselor can be incredibly beneficial. Professional support provides a safe space to explore complex emotions and develop coping strategies. We have several therapists at Village Counseling who specialize in grief.

7. Engage in Creative Expression:

   Art, writing, or other forms of creative expression can serve as therapeutic outlets for grief. Channeling emotions into creative endeavors provides an alternative way to process and communicate feelings.

8. Establish Boundaries:

   Grieving can be emotionally draining, and it's important to establish boundaries when needed. Communicate your needs to others and prioritize self-care to avoid burnout.


Navigating grief and loss is a deeply personal journey that requires patience, self-compassion, and support. By acknowledging emotions, seeking support, and employing coping strategies, individuals can move towards healing and find a renewed sense of purpose. Remember, healing is not about forgetting but learning to live with the loss in a way that allows for growth and resilience. Contact Village Counseling to see if therapy may be the right option in dealing with your grief.


Rebecca Cumberland